Hey gang!
At http://www.christianitytoday.com/teens/ the site has a lot of teens who write in and ask a lot of questions about certain things about their faith and becuase it's Valentines Day in a week or so, I thought I'd post one of the common questions that surrounds dating. The answer was written by some people with some good credibility and I agree with everything said.....if you have any questions, feel free to check out this site to see if the answers to your burning questions are posted!!!
Is It OK to Date a Non-Christian?
Question: I have always told myself I would never date a non-Christian, but lately I've been wondering if it's all right. There's a guy at school who is a wonderful person and honestly one of the sweetest guys I've ever met. He has high standards like I do, and accepts what I believe, but I don't think he's a Christian. Still, I can't help but like him—he's such a great person! I've been praying about this a lot and have asked Christian friends for advice, but I'm still not sure what's right. The Bible says we aren't to be yoked to unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), which I've been taught is a reason not to marry a non-Christian. But the Bible isn't very clear about dating. These feelings just won't go away, and I don't know what to do.
Answer: My advice is, stay where you are. You feel uncomfortable now, but not nearly as uncomfortable as you would if you fell in love with someone who didn't share your beliefs. Then you'd feel like you were being pulled in two directions—one part pulled toward God, another part pulled toward a person you didn't think you could live without.
You're right that the Bible isn't clear on dating non-Christians. Besides, "dating" means different things to different people in different situations. Sometimes there's no emotion involved—it's just a friendly way to go to a dance or to a movie. However, I think most people will admit that in the back of their minds, they think about the possibility of getting romantically involved with the people they date.
That's why it's simpler and much less heartbreaking to avoid dating people who aren't Christians. It's so easy to fall in love, even when you aren't intending to! Once you're seriously involved, it's terribly painful and confusing to both parties for the Christian to make a choice between God and this powerful feeling of love. I'd advise you to stick to dating those who share your beliefs.
That certainly doesn't mean you can't befriend this wonderful guy! In fact, I hope you invite him to go to church or youth group with you. Talk to him about your faith. Ask him if he's interested in learning about Jesus. You could help this great guy become a follower of Jesus.
And there you have it folks! Hope that gives you a clear picture about the dangers of dating non-Christians! Any Comments? Questions? Have a great week!
Kingston
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5 comments:
i agree, in the end, you'll be pulled in one direction or another (toward or away from God (to the person)) it would be much easier to date Christians...but then...to go further, it would be easier to date someone in the same church...?? like..i go to this church you go to that, i go to this youth fellowship you another...but then dating within a church can cause problems too hmm....
all so complicated...decide for yourself folks!
Dating someone from your church is a WHOLE nother story WHAHAH!!!
Lots of dangers there too....but not as dangerous as dating a Non-Christian IMO!!!
Amen to that!
put another blog up on own church dating maybe??...sometime...?
and remember not to date to convert. or to convert to date. :P Wrong intentions will hurt later on as well.
you mustn't date non christians... let's say your life is church, worshipping, loving God.. and that CONSUMES 90% of your life... that means your significant other is not part of 90% of your life!!!...that means you will never truly know each other!! DEATH:P
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